Break-ups can feel painful as if your life is ending and you'll never experience a love like that again. And you know what, that is true. Let me explain…
Your life is not ending, but a part of your life is. The part of your life where that relationship would have come with some lessons to learn and implement with the next person to create a fulfilling and loving relationship.
You will also not experience a love like your last lover because you’re not suppose to. The aim is to create a better love because the growth you did in your last relationship has no doubt prepared you for your next relationship… if you are aware of the lessons learned.
Irrespective of being able to move on or not. Grief is inescapable. Grief can help to process the ins and outs of your relationship, and most importantly, reflect on one's own contribution to the break-up. It doesn’t mean you did anything bad, it could be something simple as going for the same characteristics in a person, or trusting quickly, or communication issues. Exploring the time spent with the person whether it was a month, 6 months, 1 year or 10 years. You must move through the grief stage to get to true healing to partner up (if you choose to) with the next person with an open heart.
Working with a therapist can help to work through what may have gone wrong and how to heal the wound that developed from the pain of the break u so you’re not carrying an emotional baggage into your next relationship.
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